The Gum Diary

I was preparing to make some depressing post about how I always just expect some guy to suddenly come up to me and confess his love for me. I mean, I have never really considered that all those movie scene, love-at-first-sight situations never happen in real life. I had been thinking for the past few days that if I ever wanted a guy to take interest in me, I would at least have to talk to him.

Ha ha.

That was until today...

Yes, ladies and gentlemen, a guy actually asked for my phone number. It was Josh from my astronomy class, who I have mentioned before. This morning, he asked if he could borrow my highlighter and I said yes in a really raspy voice. I thought, at that point, my chances with him were pretty much shot. But later in class, during the lecture, he passed me his notebook and there was a note asking my for my phone number. So I wrote it down. Then he went through the painfully noisy process of ripping a piece of paper from his notebook, which he gave to me. It said (spelling corruptions included):

"[happy face, looking something like this: o_o only the mouth was curved into a smile] [His phone number] my name is Joshua i thought yer Batman shirt was neat."

Then, when he had to leave class early, he gave me another note that said:

"Bye Colleen see you monday [same happy face]"

Yay!

Also, does anyone know the css for the menu? I am pretty sure I can somehow permanently align it at the bottom without making tables, but I am not sure how.

This song makes me happy...and sad.
Looper - Impossible Things #2
Maybe someday when I have the motivation (and desire to risk being sued), I will upload some songs...like that one.

1. Yesterday in astronomy, Josh asked if he could sit in the chair next to me and I said, "Absolutely!" I hope I didn't sound to enthusiastic. We didn't say anything else to eachother for the rest of class. I, unfortunately, got too nervous to begin any of the steps for some reason.

2. Last night, on my way home from film, some guy asked me if I could show him where the computer room was. So I told him it was in the other hall on the second floor. But he wanted me to take him there, although I didn't really know where it was myself. So I asked a group of guys outside where it was and they told me I needed to get a key from the office to get in. So this guy and I went to the office. The lady there made me leave my ID card there until I brought the key back. So I told the guy that when he finished in the computer room, he could turn the key in and bring my ID card to my room. But he still wanted me to help him find the computer room (the invalid). So we went up there and it was already open because there were some other guys in there. I thought he might give me back the key, but he didn't. So I went back to my room. Not long later, the guy came to my room with the key. I was going to go back to the office to get my ID card, but he just kept standing in the doorway. Finally he moved and walked with me back to the office. When we got there, he said something along the lines of, "It's been an absolute pleasure to meet you. I didn't know what to say, so I shook his hand and said something like, "You too." It was a fairly strange occurance. Eh. Maybe I had an opportunity there, but I didn't take it. I doubt I ever will.

I found a real, live guy here at school who I guess I can practice the Five Steps on. His name is Josh and he is in my astronomy class. I am choosing him mainly because he sits next to me and doesn't seem mean.
Apparently, according to the Five Steps, my grandmother was right and it is impossible for a girl and a boy to just be friends. I don't know if I can really accept that though. Eh.

Anyway, as far as guys getting girls to fall in love with them, sadly, the most effective way, according to studies, is sex. But this poses the problem of actually getting the girl into bed. I don't know if it would be this way for all girls, but here are what I think are the keys to getting a girl to have sex with you.

1. Be assertive and talk to the girl. Show her that you like her by acting very positively towards her. Don't be afraid to tell her that she's really cool. I, personally, would find it a little creepy if a guy I was just meeting told me I was "beautiful" or something. I would recommend staying away from compliments about her physical attractiveness. Although that's just me. You could say her shirt is cool or something...if it is. Anyway, yeah, compliment her and stuff. On average, girls are less confident about their attractiveness than guys are. Say a girl is a 5 (like on the hot or not scale, for example). She would probably only rank herself as a 3. But if a guy were a 5, he would consider himself a 7. So, what I'm saying is, assure the girl that she is someone worth liking and she will be more likely to get the picture.

2. You kind of have to be careful about moving on from here. As shown below in "How To Get A Boyfriend," there is sometimes confusion about whether a relationship is only a friend type of thing...or something more. I don't know what the secret to figuring this out is, but hopefully you will be able to tell when she likes you.

3. Once you have built a trusting and caring realtionship with her, etc., etc., she will probably "be in love" with you already. But that final guarantee is sex...which you shouldn't pressure her into or she will end up feeling bitter. This is why you need to be careful with "one night stands" and all of that because sex creates the feeling of closeness and connection for women...which leads very quickly to love. So...unless you can get the girl to sleep with you on the first date, you have to go through the rest of the steps like everyone else. And if she does sleep with you on the first date, she might already be immune to the love thing.

So, again, I am certainly no expert on the subject, but this is based on stuff from my sociology and psychology classes, which are often pretty accurate when it comes to relating the stuff to real life. I'll admit though, I paid less attention to this than I did on the ways to get a boyfriend.

Hopefully this helps. Hopefully it helps someone. I was also pretty tired when I wrote this, so I'm sorry if some of it (or all of it) is incoherent.

I like this guy a lot.
Duke and Gonzo
Hot or Not is great.